I came across this gem on social media this morning and couldn’t help but chuckle. At first glance, it seems so poetic and profound–a great thought to start the day. And then you do a double take, realize what it is you actually just read and, in my case at least, love the saying even more.
It’s been a personal struggle this past week for me to find the good in people. Not people I’m close with–my family and friends–but some of those periphery people. They’re not really a part of my life and yet their actions are having an affect on certain areas of it–and not in a good way. It’s been hard to see the good, to not be judgemental, to give the benefit of the doubt when all I really want to do is wave a magic wand and have them dissipate into thin air.
I’m not the most positive person and I’m sure I’ve cast a shadow on someone else on more than one occasion; but I try to be self-aware. I strive to be fair and just and think about how my behavior or actions affect those around me. I live by a certain code of conduct and set of morals and while they may not match those of others they’re a standard I can live with and feel good about.
And so it boggles my mind when people seemingly aren’t aware of how their actions affect others. Or maybe they’re aware and just don’t care.
As social creatures our moods and general sense of being can be greatly affected by the people around us. And, again, not necessarily just the people close to us. We can choose who we spend time with. And if those people aren’t supporting our overall well being than, really, we have no one to blame but ourselves. We can’t choose every single person we have some sort of interaction with. And, as such, we should be cognizant that others can’t choose us either.
Some people are like clouds, but we don’t have to allow them to rain on our days. We can look at their presence as passing and transitory. We can remind ourselves we don’t know the details of their lives that could be causing such a gloomy disposition or blustery behavior. And, above all, we can strive to be better ourselves. To bring warmth to the atmosphere and help the sun shine again for a brighter day for everyone.