Support. When we talk about giving support what does that really mean? A support is something that bears weight or holds up. It’s the giving of assistance or aid, whether financially, materially or emotionally. It’s sharing a burden, giving reassurance, encouragement or just, basically, helping. There are thousands of ways we can support our loved ones when they’re in need. Here are a few of our suggestions.
1. Listen, Don’t Speak. A large part of being a good communicator is not the words you choose, but choosing not to use them. This is true in supporting someone as well. Don’t worry about what you should say, just listen to what they need to say.
2. Send a Love Letter. This doesn’t have to be for just your spouse or significant other. Sending letters (snail mail!?!) is rapidly becoming a long-lost art. But don’t underestimate the power of the written word. Send a card or a brief note of encouragement. Leave post-its with affirmation around the house. Or send off a quick email of praise (okay this isn’t the old-school tangible note, but it’s instantaneous, and, sometimes, there is something to be said for that). Knowing you spent the time to craft a note could mean more than you might realize.
3. Share. Sometimes the worst feeling is the feeling of being alone. We feel we are the only one struggling, the only one hurting, the only one who feels inadequate. Don’t make someone else’s struggle about you, but do share a time when you felt a similar way. Knowing that others have been in a similar state and been successful (or even are still fighting to be successful) helps relieve the burden of aloneness. If sharing a personal experience or feeling isn’t appropriate, just share your time.
4. Check Something off Their To-Do List. Often times the stress of our day is added to by the ginormous To-Do list we keep in the back of our heads. If the house isn’t clean, the laundry is piling up or there are just more tasks than minutes in the day, these stressors can really pile on when we are already struggling. Supporting someone doesn’t require big, grand gestures. Throw a load of laundry in for your mom, pick up groceries for a neighbor, find a simple way to give someone a few extra minutes in their day.
5. Sport some Swag. We wear jerseys to support our favorite sports teams, which consist of people we have (most likely) never even met. Why not wear clothing or accessories to support those we actually know and love? Try a customizable t-shirt site for a cutsey and personalized shirt of your own design. Or wear team colors, the same color the hubby is wearing on the day of his big presentation. Whether it’s supporting an athlete friend at the big game, or a rubber bracelet to support a friend’s cause, physical manifestations of support show everyone who’s important to you. This month, remember to think pink for BCAM!
What is the best thing someone has done to show their support of you?